One can have peace of mind

if one avoids triple Cs:

Stop Comparing;

Stop Criticizing;

And Stop Complaining about others!

1) Don’t Speak

This seems to fly in the face of perceived wisdom. We are supposed to talk to someone when they are unwell ― ask if they’re okay, if they want to speak about anything, if something is worrying them, if they have eaten, if they want a drink, if they want to go for a short walk around the block to get a breath of fresh air, if they want to lie down. Taking is important and crucial to forming connections with people who are at breaking point, but so is silence.

2) Don’t Expect Us to Help You Understand

It often falls to the one who is unwell to explain what is wrong. Although there are lots of books and online resources exploring different mental illnesses, people still want the person suffering to explain things to them. This may be fine once the person has recovered (sometimes), but it’s not helpful during the period they are ill. Even someone with a physical illness or disease isn’t necessarily going to want to explain it to every person who asks, and it’s the same with mental illness. Do your own research. Improve your own understanding.

3) Don’t Take Anything Personally

When people become unwell, the only thing that matters is somehow getting through it ― or not, as is sometimes the case. They are fighting to get through another drawn out minute, another achingly, painful second. Fighting to not give in or not to finally give up. Fighting to hang onto the smallest, stray thread of something representing wellness and peace of mind.

4) Don’t Try To Fix Us

Having a mental illness doesn’t mean we are broken or some sort of weak, ineffectual creature that needs fixing. To be fair, we are all a little broken in this world ― those thinking they aren’t are some of the most broken of all. Living with mental illness takes strength, courage and tenacity. We have to be focused, moving with the punches as it were, and open and self-aware.

5) Don’t Try and Brush It Away

I know it’s hard ― no one wants to see a loved one or a friend suffer ― but suffering is part of life, and trying to brush it away because it makes you feel uncomfortable is not helpful and it meets your needs, not ours. Stay with us and be as brave as we are.

6) Don’t Treat Us Like Children

There seems to be something about the vulnerability and fragility of mental illness that can lead some people to treat us like kids. I have been treated like it myself, almost as if along with being ill, I have had an adjustment in intellect.

7) Don’t Tell Us How We Feel

Often, and especially if you are depressed, you will act like a magnet to those who think they know why you look so downcast.

8) Don’t Tell Us To Pull Ourselves Together

If we could pull ourselves together, we would. If there was some sort of switch or pull cord that could right all the wrongs and plaster a great big grin on our face, we would be on it in a flash. It’s not how it works. Either have patience or bog off.

9) Don’t Tell Us To Get Some Pills

The idea that psychiatrists have a collection of little shiny pills they can hand out and turn you into a shiny happy person in a day or two (sorry, REM) is a myth. There is no such thing. Medication can help, but it takes time and this reductive idea that it’s a magical cure for everything does more harm than good.

Talk

Laugh, joke, be yourself and let us be ourselves too, whatever that currently looks like. We live in a society that is afraid of anything outside of the norm, so be the person that reaches out a hand and offers a ray of hope. You might need it yourself one day, but we need it today.

 

*_"ज़िन्दगी" बदलने के लिए_*

              *लड़ना पड़ता है..!_*
         *_और आसान करने के लिए_*
              *समझना पड़ता है..!*
           *_वक़्त आपका है,चाहो तो_*
         *सोना बना लो और चाहो तो.*   
                *_सोने में गुज़ार दो..!_*

 

Stay strong in your desire to be the best version of yourself possible! This will require mental and spiritual stamina as you will be tested. Here is why. As you change, people's perception of you will change. They will utter that key phrase "you've changed" or "I thought you were cool or alright". Never mind those attitudes. Yes you have changed! Courage is needed to go against the dominant thinking of those who have a "set image" of you. They can't see you any different. This is not your problem. Stay focused and be absolute towards improving who you are so you can take on the full responsibility of who you need to become to live the kind of life you want. Believe the Champion in You! -Adrian Starks

"A long time ago, there lived a Partridge under a big, green tree. One day, he decided to go to the fields and find some food. Seeing plenty of food in the fields, he stayed on for many days.
While the Partridge was away, a Hare started living in his house.

 

Leave a mark in this world. Have a meaningful life, whatever definition it has for you. Go towards it. The place we are leaving is a beautiful playground, where everything is possible. Yet, we are not here forever. 

         Our life is a short spark in this beautiful little planet that flies with incredible speed to the endless darkness of the unknown universe.

           So, enjoy your time here with passion. Make it interesting. Make it count!

Why do people give up on life?

Because it’s easy.

Because the other road is rough and rugged.

Because I dread failure. Because I do not believe I have what it takes to take the tough path.

Because I see everything as a competition.

Because I am comfortable in the mob. I do not stand out.

Because I don’t believe in my abilities as much as I am in awe of others’.

Because the world wants me to. Because the world mocks me. Because I do not know my worth.

Because the world sees only my failure.